Just Who OWNS Whom?

Forgive any errors or odd trains of thought within this post. I wrote by the seat of my pants as usual, but I was exhausted when I started writing it and chose not to go back and edit, but to just pick up where I left off.


Anyone that has been in this lifestyle knows there are rules. For the most part I say fuck them. No one knows where the rules came from. No one knows why some people tend to cling to them as if their whole world would fall apart. Some things you just don’t say when it comes to wiitwd. One of my bloggy besties (can I refer to a Dom as a bloggy bestie? feels odd, yet fitting…) said one of those things.

He came out of the Dom watering hole, walked right into the middle of town square and said ‘ his submissive has all the power‘. The slightly amusing part of this was the title, and a request he had not to tell his submissive this secret. So I decided to let him in on a secret of our own. We know! *looks for lightening* If you are going down I am going down with you JK!

Now for all of you “rules” people, give me a moment, and let me explain.

I will be the first to admit this doesn’t apply to all D/s relationships. Though my guess is the better majority. Many of us subbies are strong, confident, amazing specimens of dominant women. One of my favorite shows is “Suits” have you seen it? Jessica Pearson is fucking awesome. She is one of my favorite characters. I see so much of myself in her. Essentially she is me, without a husband and child. I also see what the writers don’t write. You see, a woman like that can’t stand a pussy of a man. (rules people I KNOW men can be submissive too, but for the purpose of this post they aren’t attractive) Jessica Pearson finds a man that can go at her toe for toe. She finds a dominant man that can and will put and keep her in her place, and let me tell you she OWNS that man.

Kind of like how I OWN my Dom, and how Sofia (not to be too presumptuous) OWNS JK.  It isn’t some screwed up switch of the minds. The thing is these men are exceptionally strong—that is half of the appeal. Yet if they were to have an Achilles heel it would be their submissive. The D/s bond is so strong as submissives we have the power to turn our Doms into putty. Yet, we never will. We never use that power in a way that would destroy the dynamic we have worked so hard to build. We yield to them, and to their power with every fiber of our being. Hmm did I just define submissive?

Might I just say I am writing this knowing my Dom will never see it, and that these words, would never actually come out of my mouth in his presence. Full disclosure and all.

Thank you Sir, but that was rude!

Yesterday I was mid-full-on-fantasy-mode. I had waited patiently for my Tuesday, only to have it ruined by quite the forceful fiancee.

Here is some background…One of my favorite bloggers had written part one of yummy tale. He is really good at what he does, leaving many a submissive all wanton. The best part, I wast late to the party of part one and part two, was right behind. 🙂 I like not having to wait, but I digress. You see I had a date. Tuesday, was my day to play with my DP.  Some technical issues kept me from enjoying my DP, but alas we were able to have some fun. (Me, my favorite dildo, and my hitachi had SO much fun)

I wasn’t done with my DP though, when Jackson came home. I knew I would have to get back to reality when he and my son came home, get back to the domestic life for the night. Surprise though, my son wasn’t with him. I gleefully returned to my play with the DP, when I was attacked. I wanted to mind, but when there is a hand wrapped around your neck one tends to get lost in the moment.

It was a good moment, that turned into many moments, that turned into a really long night. When I woke this morning, bruised, and sore I looked at my Dom and said thank you. Then let him know rude he was for interrupting my long awaited internet fuck with my DP. Some people show now regard for others!

What is the tell?

In my previous post The Invisible Ring I talked about Mr. Nguyen somehow within a business lunch figured out that I am a submissive. It has been nagging at me. I can’t pick out a Dom, not really. There are certain characteristics and personality traits that tend to go hand in hand with a dominant man. I can’t say though that without them making it known that I can really tell.

This guy though, could tell. He knew exactly what to say, how to touch me, how close to stand, how to approach me to make my body react in a way that was most unpleasant. So  I am wondering what everyone else thinks. To the subbies, do you know of certain tells you have? To the Dom’s what do you see that lets you know “that one will do whatever I ask?”

30 Days of Kink ~Day 20

Day 20: Talk about something within kink/bdsm that you’re curious about/don’t understand.

I have never understood the daddy/daughter aspect of kink. Occasionally Jackson will feed me the “who’s your daddy?” line, but honestly whenever he says it I respond appropriately but inside I am thinking. Not you, how about you stick to being my dom, and then as if he read my mind, he wraps his hands around my throat and makes me suck his cock.

I already have a daddy, I surely don’t need another one.